How to Motivate Yourself When You're Down and Lonely

Question:
I know I should do more "niche work" to meet women, but I get so down and lonely the idea of going out just seems impossible. It just seems too hard. What should I do?
Answer:
For readers who might not know, "niche work" is the work you do, on a regular basis, to get yourself involved in situations or communities that contain women with whom you can interact.
It's volunteering at the coop every week, taking the dance class, or joining the outing club. Niche work puts you in contact with groups of women and gives you a reason to talk with them. It's a fundamental part of being an effective seducer. To find out more about niche work, go here.
The problem is, you most need to do your niche work when you are lonely and isolated. At the same time, when you are most lonely and isolated is the *hardest* time to do niche work. If you are feeling down, you need some sort of pleasure, connection, or recreation to cheer you up.
Doing niche work--going someplace new, and being with a group of strangers in the hopes of meeting women--seems about as far from pleasure, connection and recreation that you can get. So you end up lying on your couch instead of getting out meeting women. What to do?
The answer is this: You must find things that feed your needs for pleasure, connection, and recreation, and give them to yourself consistently in your life. If you don't, we are sorry to have to tell you that you will stay in the situation you are in now: needing to do niche work, but so upset that the difficulty of the niche work itself stops you from even starting.
You can fulfill your needs for pleasure, connection, and recreation by paying attention to two things: the details of your experiences in your life, and what feels good to your body. This may seem irrelevant, but if you can't bring yourself pleasure, you won't be able to get the women in front of you, or attract them sexually when you do.

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